Category Bond - attachment

There is so much talk about motherhood ... About how to become a happy mother, how to make our child happy ... But I think we forget the main thing: allow ourselves to give and show all our love to our little ones. If there is one thing we can never forget, it is that love is the best emotional food for the baby.

The emptiness that one feels when they stop breastfeeding is very great, and here it does not matter if it was the children's decision or ours, it is difficult to get used to the idea! I have lived it in my own flesh, but I found the method of continuing to give them the best of me, because hugs and kisses for children are also on demand.

Attachment is necessary for survival and development. It is an affective bond that involves talking about love, security, need for contact, trust, union and dependency? Some parents often wonder if building an overly attached relationship with children and babies is detrimental to their upbringing.

Today we all parents know that educating our little ones with the rod of authority does not help to have happy and safe children. Phrases like 'you do it, period' or 'because I said so' are already past. The present is about kisses and caresses. And it is that it is demonstrated that the affection defect does create anomalies in the education and happiness of the little ones, deficiencies that will drag until their adult life.

The British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby (1907–1990) believed that parental attachment to children and vice versa plays a key role, especially during early childhood. Why? Well, because if this attachment is complete, the child can grow up happily and lead a full social and emotional life as an adult.

You only need to listen well to realize that more and more educational theories are emerging that differ greatly from what we could call & 39; traditional & 39 ;. Why? Well, because there are many families, teachers and pedagogues who try to find useful methods with which to guide children on their path from affection, respect and autonomy.