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The 13 virtues necessary for your child to achieve real success


All parents we want our children to be happy. May you achieve their goals, may they achieve their dreams. That despite the defeats, fears and bitter tastes of life, finally achieve happiness, which is success in life.

We try to help them on their way. We guide them, we show them a path. We reach out to them when they fall and we kiss and hug them when they suffer. But we can offer you something else. We can feed those 13 virtues necessary for your child to achieve real success. Which are actually essential values. There are 13 virtues that the politician and scientist Benjamin Franklin spoke about in his day and that we should remember when we educate our son.

'Thirteen virtues are necessary for true success: temperance, silence, order, resolution, frugality, industriousness, sincerity, justice, moderation, neatness, tranquility, chastity and humility '(Benjamin Franklin)

Reflect well on this phrase full of wise advice. Without a doubt, an excellent manual to remember at every moment. These are, according to Benjamin Franklin, the indispensable virtues (or values) so that your child achieves success in everything he sets out to do:

  1. Temperance. Anger impulses often cause us to make serious mistakes. Nerves have never been good advisers, and problems should not be solved hot. When your child feels angry, angry or sad, teach him to let time pass before making decisions, to temper his nerves, to keep calm. It is one thing to 'pay attention to the heart' and quite another to 'let yourself be carried away by anger, fear or sadness'. Temperance is moderation, restraint. And it is only achieved in calm.
  2. Be quiet. Silence understood as active listening. Learning to listen silently is essential, as is learning to listen to ourselves. And this can only be achieved through silence. Children often have trouble keeping their minds blank and listening quietly. They are usually nervous and very active by nature. But learning to be silent is not reserved only for adults. There are activities and games that can help your child learn to meditate, such as the Silence Game, Montessori, or the Mindfulness technique.
  3. Order. Teach your child to be orderly, because the order that he learns to respect in a physical space, an inner order will also be projected. Children who are orderly with their material things, tend to have a greater facility to organize their thoughts, which will help them to visualize their goals easily and establish a route to achieve them.
  4. Resolution. Life is built on the basis of constant decision making. Hence the importance of teaching children to resolve conflicts and make decisions quickly. Who doubts, is usually wrong. Those who act quickly are usually right. Teach your child to 'act', not to stand still and to decide quickly.
  5. Frugality. Sometimes our problems are nothing more than an imaginary mountain that we create in a moment from a single grain of sand. 'Taking iron' out of issues is important because it helps us to be positive, optimistic and focus on the reality of an issue. A virtue very similar to that of temperance.
  6. Industriousness Effort and perseverance should always be your child's companions. They are essential values ​​that will help you achieve your goals. The objectives are generally not achieved on the first attempt, but after numerous failed attempts. Teach your child to take care of their work, to be a perfectionist with their homework and above all, to make an effort in each of their jobs.
  7. Sincerity. An essential value to maintain both inner peace and relationships with others. Many thinkers agree to establish this value, that of sincerity, as one of the most important when it comes to achieving happiness. Teach your child not to lie, even if you notice that many others 'get away with it' when they lie. In the end, explain, someone who lies to others, lies to himself.
  8. Justice. One of the great virtues and most difficult to achieve is justice. This includes empathy, of course, that great gift of being able to 'get into the other's shoes' to be able to observe and decide. Teach your child to be fair by your own example. Although we already know that the sense of justice in children is sometimes very different, little by little, as they mature, they will understand.
  9. Moderation. Excess can never be good. Aristotle already said it: 'virtue is found in equity (the just mean)'. That is why it is so important to teach children not to overdo anything and to be moderate. Something that will also help them to be more fair.
  10. Neatness. Here, although we could also talk about the importance of taking care of the external appearance, we will refer more to the neatness in terms of the interior of each one. Being neat as a synonym for respectful behavior. It is about teaching children certain basic social norms: say hello, be grateful, have respect for the elderly ...
  11. Tranquillity. Serenity makes us see everything with much more tranquility. There are more nervous children who really need games and activities to help them relax.
  12. Chastity. This virtue can be understood in many ways. Chastity represents fidelity, and fidelity is a value that is not only attached to a partner. You can be true to some ideas, to a friend or true to yourself. And yes, we can also understand this virtue as respect and sincerity towards a person with whom you have committed in one way or another. Friendship, yes, it is also a commitment.
  13. Modesty. Pride is never a good counselor. It makes us forget where we came from, the difficulties we had to go through and the mistakes we had to make. Teach your child that he should never forget where he came from and that every teacher was once a disciple. Teach him not to be vain or arrogant and that no one is more or less than anyone.

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